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Self-Assessment: When It’s You And Not Me

It’s not me it’s you.

1 Peter says, Be self-controlled and alert. The enemy prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

Some people’s dense mood infects others. If they’re not smiling or happy they don’t want anyone else expressing contentment. Some people feed off others’ energies as food. And some people JUST like negative energy. We push forward. Bring your problem to the table not your mood. Sometimes we end up meeting about people’s moods and don’t even know it, whether it’s the facilitator’s or an attendee.

As leaders, the clock is important, and so is what we meet about, but more importantly, our mood and tone sets the pace of the meeting.

Even the best facilitators have bad days. We should check ourselves before conducting a meeting:
How am I feeling?
Am I wearing appropriate clothing?
What am I projecting?
Does this need to be said?
Is this a good time to meet?
Can I reschedule it?

No, we can’t always sway people all the time, but usually the majority of attendees will be on the same page as the facilitator and the audience. They small-talk or prepare themselves and set each other’s tones sometimes, in agreement that everyone has a common goal for a certain amount of time.

However, if you have that ONE who always brings in a negative “can’t be bothered with this” tone, you gotta check them privately.

“Hey listen, for the last three meetings I noticed your mood has been objective. What’s going on? Do you want to talk?” Whether they take up your invite or not, their mood will be noticeably changed at the next meeting.

Sometimes people just want to be seen. Some people need to be checked too though. You’ve gotta check them and let them know they are seen. If we don’t check them, they find more and more comfort in feeding off you and your audience.

The enemy may or may not want to take your place, that doesn’t matter. What matters is they don’t want you where you are. The enemy studies you and look for ways to agitate you and bring you to their level. They use other people too. That’s how the devil works in us if we allow low ways to guide our thinking and being. Devils seek to destroy nothing else.

1 Peter says, Be self-controlled and alert. The enemy prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

2 Timothy says God did not give us the spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power of love and of self-discipline.

And if you’re following the way of your most high God, and carrying self-awareness and care about other people, then you can silently say, it’s not me it’s you. And say a lil prayer for them while covering your well-being. A Psalms perhaps…

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Self-Love: Stop Sinning on Purpose and Have a Heart

Some people have a softness about them that others mistake for weakness. I’d rather have a strong skeleton than a hard shell.

My softness is approachable and my strong skeleton withstands a lot of unnecessary and unwanted negativity from outside.

A strong heart is important. In a place where so many people have created hard shells, it isn’t because they distrust outside of themselves, it’s because they don’t trust their own heart.

Several scriptures seem to support people or encourage people to avoid trusting their own hearts. Then again we tend to seek out people places and things that reflect our own thinking, that includes scripture.

A faint-hearted person will seek out a scripture that confirms their pain and seems to tell them their heart is not to be trusted and they are wicked for their human choices that brought them to consequences. (Managing from the outside)
See “Jeremiah 17:9, Ecclesiastes 9:3 and so on…

Whereas a strong-hearted person will seek out scripture to further enhance their hearts direction to manage from the soul. (Managing from the inside) Hebrews 4;12, 2Timothy 3:16, 2 Corinthians 5;17 and so on…

What is to be cleared up is that we can trust our hearts, we can’t trust a sin-filled heart. Sin means to miss the mark (think of archery). We want to hit the center, or as close to it as possible. The further away from the center we hit (life’s situations getting the best of us) the less likely we trust our hearts.

However I’ve taken on another perspective. Not only do we get upset when we don’t hit the center (bulls eye) , we start to purposely aim anywhere but the center. Thus, we create distrust in our own hearts. Distrust does not come from other people. It comes from us not being aligned within our center.

A person who depends on artificial oxygen long enough, over time, will stop trusting their own lungs.

Trust comes from how we choose to respond or react to people places and things. When we REspond favorably we build more trust, when we REact to unfavorable conditions, we build distrust. Trusting our selves can place us in the position to become more mindful of our selves in keeping a strong heart even in the face of weakness.

People who trust themselves will often take RESPONSibilty by seeking through the heart of matters. Their REaction is to bring issues back to oneness through fellowship. While distrustful people abhor the heart in favor of distancing themselves from RESPONSibilty. Their REaction to matters is to abandon ship and separate from the center in order to “get back at”.

So when someone tells you to not trust your heart, it’s like telling you to don’t trust God and stay away. God is the center, the midst, the essence, the bullseye, whatever you consider it…God is the universe heart beat. Inaction is sin, plotting is sin, seething is sin, discouragement is sin. One of the first things sin does is break us from the inside, not the outside. Missing the mark enough times can cause us to put the brakes on our hearts.

While no human is perfect, one can take on RESPONSibility and make more mindful choices. One can still embrace their softness and stand against strong winds of negativity instead of falling weak and missing the mark, and then seeking to separate people from their center. A strong heart is what keeps the body alive. A strong heart is what keeps a family together, and a strong heart is what provides light in any darkness.

A saying goes that hurt people hurt people. But a strong heart heals. Instead of envying or bullying soft people, take a page out of their book and ask yourself, “How can they stand me after all I do to them?”

Ezekiel 36:26 notes, “I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.”

Seek within yourself if what you’re doing is needed or asked for before you berate others. We’re all fighting battles unseen. Have a heart.

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Self-Care: Be Humble and Ask God For Help

My view of success is my knowing that I exist because God exists. My humility and humbleness is knowing my limits and when to ask God for direct intervention.

Psalms 23 says,
He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters,
3 he refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name’s sake.

This current one world systems reset is hard for me as it is anyone else. Still I go about my work diligent. I think people assume spiritualists have some sort of immunity to insults, hurt, and sickness. We’re spiritualists not X-Men, but even they have weak spots. So nope,nobody’s perfect. There’s that.

This morning, I recalled some time ago, sharing with someone that when I was sick with Covid, it caused me to get my affairs in order. Like, THAT’S how sick I was. Their response was,

“I don’t know that I could’ve done what you did.”

What?

“Called out.”

Oh, so you’re one of those people who claim we never see you and wonder woman in the same room. Oh so you’ve never been humble. Oh wow..okay. So I’m talking to someone who worships themselves. Got it.

Humble is knowing your time. Not being silent….just knowing your time. Humility is knowing other people’s time and respecting it. They get mixed up–like twin sisters, identifiable by interacting with their way of being.

Chile, I done told Elizabeth I was coming home and this person worried about me calling out from work. They didn’t care that I was sick. They cared that I was the only supervisor on shift at that time, and that I called out. Hence these grown people employees wouldn’t be able to monitor themselves at.work.from.home🤨.during a world lock down. As if I didn’t grapple with that issue before falling into a half coma and having to call out in the middle of the day after already being sick for two days prior…this was the peak and I was down for the count. You know what I mean if you were a first-rounder. I can’t work with a mack truck IN my chest.

I was quite surprised that their mind was so focused on leadership that even if they were that sick they would’ve called themselves being there for others and not themselves. Chile the pride! No even a great leader…but just a good leader knows when to tap out.

That’s when I knew I had to get in closer with God. Re-dedicate my life to God and renew my leadership vows (Wayshower vows); for me and mine, with the revelation that people are trying to go at life on their own. The system reset also is forcing us to look at humanity through enhanced eyes and mind. We need God in this. We always have…we were just young and closed minded and having a good time in a new land for some time.

When you feel that you have no options and there are no new ideas flowing into your mind, heart and body, a tell-tell sign of a Godless life is in your response to others humility,

“I don’t know that I can do that.”

Imagine God responding to you in such when you ask for something. Or just even someone you trust responding in such a manner. Yeah that’s disappointing and discouraging.

We can’t rid ourselves of people who are discouraging and tend to stomp on anything of value beyond themselves. I often purposely ask God to provide peace to still my mind in the midst of so many ideas and so many options. They are all right for me, otherwise I wouldn’t be thinking of them. However we can’t do everything at once. Discouraging people will have you keep great ideas to yourself, until they can find a way to take the credit.

This is why it’s important to write. I had no idea that so many people hate writing or are fearful to write, or in their words, can’t write! Even if no one ever sees. As a self-taught reader and writer, I can’t imagine my life without writing. God shows up. I.wrote.THIS.life.just.to.figure.out.how.to.help.my.share.of.humanity. Did we all not…? And so everywhere we go that’s where we are.

For goals that I’ve written 10 years ago, some have been achieved and some are coming back up as I transition into the next leg of my life. What we sow we reap. Every idea wants to be chosen. I simply rewrite them toward the top of my lists if they aren’t chosen. 😆

Anyway, getting to PEACE! God will help us along in life by stirring our minds and hearts in the direction we need to go…if we’re focused and open.

A closed hand cannot give or receive. Neither can a closed mind and a closed heart. Never slap people in the face with your left hand if you know your heart isn’t in the right place. It’s going to show, eventually. Much like that person when I shared that story. They may have a high title at work, but that heart needs work.

Anyway, the best part of being humble before God is when we sleep, and God takes us to the STILL place..the place of PEACE. I’m thinking of the song Still Waters Run Deep by Aretha Franklin…don’t trouble the waters just let it be. Sail on sail on by, your time has come to shine, all of your dreams are on their way! You can even go with Anita Baker’s, “Sweet Love”, and sway as she talks with God about having peace. Anita was my idol growing up…having grown up in foster care herself…blossoming into one of the Queens of Soul…cause she gets it. She knows where I’m coming from. She’s been there…a displaced child of God.

The place where the water is actually a sea of crystals so bright, and sand so soft it feels like walking on air. The two suns are so yellow and crispy bright but the temperature feels fit to skin. The people doing their own thing and the obsidian mountains are so high in the background. And we just walk or sit, and our window opens and there we are doing and being…our desires. We feel every exact feeling and emotion. WE ARE ‘I AM’ BEING OURSELVES! The CRADLING–which I’ve come to calling this majestic energy–is a most amazing and overwhelming feeling–imagine that of a baby snuggling in our own arms..and we know they are safe with us and so we relax feeling safe with them..and most times end up asleep. You ever slept in your sleep?

Then upon waking we continue to feel this energy..and if we accept.it.into.our energy… all is well. We are refreshed and renewed. And when the spirit of infirmary comes gossiping and nosing around, trying to make changes where they have no business or being discouraging, we are able reject and redirect them without a thought.

The adventure begins when we begin seeing (synchronicities) signs of heaven in our waking life…and that is the road we follow. The ideas are vivid and the most promising road becomes enlightened into our minds. Some say they see a golden road in their sleep..which I have also seen at least twice and did produce a portrait some years ago. The road to the next possibility. At least that childhood “myth” is true. Aye ask God for peace if you just find that you have to tap out and need to renew your strength. Write it down, speak it, paint it, make music, whatever it is that you do from the heart naturally. It’s a good time to get your affairs in order anyway. So do that too.

Psalms 23 says,
He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters,
3 he refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name’s sake.

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Self-Empowerment: Judge Your Own Self

Coming out with your hidden successes will reveal to you more about people places and things currently around you than anyone could ever tell you about yourself. If everybody seems to know you…are you truly seeing yourself through your eyes or others? From which point in your life?

What is your answer if God asks, “Tell me about yourself?”

We are absolutely never as bad as people judge us. Open your destiny and be engulfed by your own light. Nobody judges the past…they judge what they see right in front of them and even that can be skewed, without knowing the past and no inclination of a future.

People grimace at physical scars…but have no idea how they got there.

I’m not wearing scars yet people grimace at my revealation of having been raised through the foster system. Then suddenly they change up on me as if a thousand scars suddenly appeared…and then with the closed off comments.

“Oh! You don’t look like it!” 😐
“I’m so sorry!”😐
“That’s terrible you had to go through that!”😐

I’m like,
What does foster care look like?🤨
Why are you apologizing?🤨
Who said it was terrible?🤨

The appropriate open-ended response would be (if at all),

“What was that like?”🤔

Curiosity would ask,
“Tell me more.”🤔☕

This is why I say,
Be your own judge…you know what you’ve been through, have done and have not done, and are doing. The best way to consciously have the future you desire is to work at it now…whether publicly or in private.

If you see a rock planted in the dirt that doesn’t mean there’s nothing under earth to trip you up. If you see a boulder planted in the dirt, that doesn’t mean there’s deep problems under earth.

Reach back and share with the people that struggled with you and encouraged you and helped you out of those dark places…then launch yourself forward into your season!