Self-Realism: Love

The heart people…we never learn do we? Lmaoooooooo…..nope. We go in time and time again…feeling around with our hearts…only to get whipped and bruised. But dammit if one thing…we ARE consistent.

Love is consistent. Love strives to understand itself by allowing itself to HAVE the experience…time and time again. Love never dies. Love heals and shows itself in unlikely places. Love rescues cats from trees, and jumps in water to save people. Love shields the ignorant from falling anvils, talks people off ledges, and saves the dying.

Love is tied up in court too. For being all in people’s business…either for saving someone or for mistaken identity in divorce cases.

Looking at it more closely we can see that “Love” is one of the most abused and misunderstood words.

We mistake things like gratification, sentimentality, obligation, duty, passion, desire, and other superficial emotions, ideas and conditioned concepts as “Love” in order fill something that is ultimately lacking within us.

These distortions are also used mostly unconsciously as buffers to avoid facing reality as it is by looking at the world with rose-colored glasses on, instead of seeing oneself and the world more objectively beyond appearances.

“For the great majority of mankind are satisfied with appearances, as though they were realities, and are often more influenced by the things that seem than by those that are.”
Niccolo Machiavelli

There is personal love between humans, motherly love, love of family and community, love for oneself, love for something greater than the self, love for god and even love for man-made ideologies and concepts such as for a nation and country. 

So what is love? How can we describe or define such a powerful force? Words are very limiting and can only point to it, but are not it. Maybe we can start by examining what love is not.

When it comes to interpersonal relationships we often see control games, jealousy, and envy which is obviously not love, but expressions and behaviors based on fear and need. 

Love is related to emotions and feelings, but they can be merely based on chemical reactions in the brain that result in a “high”, where people feed off each other which is also be the basis for psychic vampirism.

Many relationships are based on this feeding mechanism, which has nothing to do with love, but is a parasitic need resulting in co-dependence. Sexual attraction is also mistaken for love at times.

Many people get into relationships for the wrong reasons, be it to escape their loneliness, to fill a hole in their lives or feed off another person.

For the most part this happens unconsciously and so people tend to lie to themselves about love and their relationships in many ways, not seeing the other person as he/she is and not even seeing themselves clearly as they are.
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